Anxiety Can Teach Us To Take Better Care of Ourselves


by Tiffany Joy Mansfield

So what’s the deal with anxiety? This word is thrown around a lot nowadays. Perhaps just “getting over it already” may have been uttered by those who haven’t experienced it. But to the people who suffer with it, either as a lifelong battle or even for small bouts, it is real. It is described by some as a feeling of having a car supercharging your heart, or the paralyzing and negative anticipation that surges through your body. It is a terrifying feeling that can make you believe things will never be okay again. Never.

Anxiety is technically defined as a nervous disorder, characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

Although it does not feel okay that this is happening, there are ways to cope with anxiety. And at Simple Modern Therapy, we are here to help you.

Here’s a question that most people with anxiety would not consider a feasible question because the answer seems obvious, but let’s ask it anyway.

“Can anxiety be useful?”

Glennon Doyle Melton stated this phrase during an interview with Oprah:

“I was staying home with my three kids, because that is an amazing idea for high anxiety,” she deadpans. “I was just dripping with babies.”

She realized that staying at home only caring for her children was not the right choice for her and she needed something else. She decided to start writing and is now the famous author of Love Warrior and runs the website Momastery. She credits anxiety with forcing her to do something different, to get out of the situation that was causing her anxiety and channeled her time into productive work that could help women.

“There is a role for anxiety in that it makes us stop and think,” says Dr. Carly Snyder in an article from GirlBoss, a psychiatrist with a specialty in comprehensive reproductive psychiatry and women’s mental health services.

“Sometimes we are too impulsive. All of us. And anxiety has the benefit of making us stop and think.”

Before doing anything else, Dr. Snyder recommends you ask yourself a second question, “Why is the anxiety there in the first place?” Is something else going on, or is it really this particular situation that’s bringing you anxiety? If you’re feeling fine in every other realm of life and one decision suddenly brings on a bout of anxiety, she explains that there’s a chance your reaction is your gut trying to tell you something.

Look at your life and see if there is a way to reduce or try to limit the situations that bring you the most anxiety and instead of feeling guilty, figure out a way to make it work for your life. We specialize in helping people figure out how to live their best life, with or without anxiety.


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